We were talking about the Donnie McClurkin story. He was a gay man who says he became straight and then went on to become a grammy winning gospel singer. The gay community didn't like that he implied it's wrong to be gay so they got him pulled as the headliner of the MLK concert in DC. Without judging if it's right or wrong to be gay, just is it possible to switch, is enough to get slammed by the gay community. Their argument is that people have no choice in their sexuality. I have always thought that wrong. I mean people don't go into puberty with a deep need for S&M behavior or any of the fetish things that people develop over their lifetimes. And beyond sexuality there are a myriad of things that people feel are part of their identity that sometimes change over their lives. Political leanings and the such.
Now a Columbia University Dr is feeling the wrath from the gay community and his own psychiatric community for publishing a report that in fact shows it is possible to switch. Of the 143 men and 57 women who told the doctor that they changed their orientation from gay to straight, the Doctor reviewed their relationships with their new partners and concluded that 66 percent of the men and 44 percent of women reached what he called good heterosexual functioning — a sustained, loving heterosexual relationship within the past year and getting enough emotional satisfaction to rate at least a seven on a 10-point scale. The fierce response to his findings eventually caused the Doctor to retract his report and apologize for publishing it!
None of us know what another person is going through. And we all develop our own sense of values. The problem as I see it is when one makes their values more important than anothers. I am a straight man who became a Christian at age 36. That change happened after I studied the Bible. It transformed my values, and is still transforming them today. I was wrong to mock Christians when I wasn't one. But a Christian who mocks or pressures someone else to conform to their value system is just as wrong. So if you're gay and others are shaming you or guilting you into "acting straight" they are wrong. However if you're gay and for whatever reason have decided you would like to become straight, I'm telling you that there is hope.